![]() ![]() Although even that is changing – and quickly - as proven by the rise of female stars now in charge of their own production such as Joanna Angel and the independent cam girl industry.Īt the recent Camming Con conference in Miami, (for the web camera industry) I met with women of all shapes, weights, sizes, and asymmetries working just exactly what they had to make a more than decent living. Like any woman conscious of gender and power, the issue I do still have with porn is the prevailing male dominance of the industry. Objectification doesn't have to mean dehumanisationĪs for the argument that it objectifies women, well, of course it does – and what’s wrong with objectification? Contrary to many of my feminist peers, I don’t consider it short-hand for dehumanisation. The temptation to have sex on the rebound ebbs when you know porn can help you get the dopamine rush with none of the emotional fall-out. It’s also a great and safe substitute for sex when you are getting over a break-up. Porn isn’t a substitute for skin-on-skin experience. There is nothing as sexy as authenticity. If you’re open to someone’s fantasyland, and they to yours, porn can’t come close to replicating the experiences you can have with one another. Far from making me feel intimated, I would watch the lame dialogue and overwrought squeals and know I could do better – and be far sexier. It also helped me to better understand their expectations. When I worked as a professional dominatrix a few years ago, I regularly watched kink porn in order to conjure new tricks that I could use on the clients. We lament that porn functions as sex education in Britain, but provided you also do research on the mechanics of the moves you want to try, it can also provide fantastic inspiration. Finally! Something better for the 4pm slump than my previous Dairy Milk and Diet Coke fix. A daily dose of porn kept my pornographer’s pen lubricated. When I was given just six weeks to write an erotic memoir, I knew I was going to need ‘priming’. Without porn, there’d definitely be a sexual energy deficit I’d have to discharge somewhere else. But once in a relationship, I’m enthusiastically monogamous. ![]() Now, as a 30-year-old female boxing nut, I’m probably in possession of a higher sex drive - and the energy reserves to power it - than many of male peers. I love kinky porn, queer porn, and decidedly hetero stuff, even more than girl-on-girl. But I also love the raw, ragged, mainstream videos that populate the tube sites. There is some deeply erotic and artistic material out there, featuring men as beautiful as the women, and made by the likes of Erika Lust, Ms Naughty, and Pandora Blake. It was high respite from the high-minded literary journalism sphere into which I was trying to break. Soon, I was logging on several times a week. How could these theorists be riled about a fantasy depiction where the victim is a character? And wasn’t video porn full of characters too? I decided to go back to the online stuff. But when I wrote my dissertation on Nabokov’s Lolita and the feminist dissections of it, something shifted. “Porn is the separation of the parts from the person,” read one feminist text I loved to quote in my modern literary theory class. I was going through what I like to call my High Morbid Feminist phase, and searching for evidence of objectification and exploitation. In my late teens, after a debilitating few years battling with anorexia, my sex drive had all but evaporated, and when I ventured back into the online fold at university, I didn’t do it for pleasure. Later, I was far more interested in having sex than watching it, particularly, in front of mirrors. If you’re female, you might just need to spend a little more time riffling through the racks, so to speak. Whatever the fantasy you’d like to explore, there’s a porn clip out there for you. Far from believing that porn is responsible for our social and intimate decay, I am zealous about its capacity to cheer up our stress-rich, time-poor, care-worn lives. I love porn, and ever since I began researching it for my work, I’ve become increasingly seduced by its gushing celebration of the human body in all its variety its capacity for pleasure beyond the bounds of moral, missionary stricture and the fantasy outlet it provides. After all, we’re human, and our brains are wired to find novelty exciting, irrespective of our genitals or gender. We love a dopamine hit as much as the next fella. ![]() A new German sex study has confirmed what I have long suspected and that heavy use of pornography could make some of us “hypersexual” - a personality disorder that involves spending excessive time engaged in sexual fantasies. Women are just as capable of being ‘addicted’ to porn as men. ![]()
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